Welcome to OC tiffanyh2010 - sorry you're having trouble with your mother. To answer your last question - no I don't think you're crazy at all and its wasn't right for her to be late or say others are talking about you or that you're crazy. Its a valid point that you don't want her influencing your son to live with her, when you and your ex are trying to do what's best for your kids. Does she dislike your ex - is that why she's trying to influence him?

You were justified is bringing this up. The only thing I suggest is - discuss important things on the phone or in person. Text can miss tone and intentions etc. It seems like she's back tracking because she dug herself a hole. You're a grown woman and its fine to have boundaries. She should see your kids when its convenient for you and the kids. Don't let this bother you and you were fine.