SupaNova,

Please don't run away from this forum now thinking you did something inappropriate because you didn't. Your delivery was a bit rough, but I know you were trying to help.

First off, you're right about the choices myself and other people make. We already know that: It's why we cry and hide our faces in the first place. We understand or postulate that maybe if at a certain juncture, we'd have chosen something different, life would be roses and cream for us now. Or maybe it wouldn't. The point is, for most people who suffer mental illness, awareness of or a perception of ourselves as continual F-ups or failures is a recurring and vicious problem - one that we're more than aware exists, so to point out that we need to think positive and make the right choices is like well no **** John Madden.

You're also right about getting out from under your heavy thoughts, not wallowing and going for a walk or whatever it takes to get your mind off your own problems. That really, is one reason I joined PC. When I am able to give someone else here advice or even a pat on the back, it helps me. When I see others in my situation, it helps me. When I get a laugh or read someone else's laughable moments, it helps me. But that said, it's not the same as getting up, getting out and being in the real world. I know that and lots of others on this forum know that too. Sometimes it's just difficult for whatever reason to find motivation and sometimes the very medications people take to "help" are the reason. Myself, I'm going to look into helping to serve or prepare the meals at the church where I go to eat said meals. It will get me out of the house twice a week, and service to others is the best remedy I think.

Again, don't feel you did anything wrong. Just remember that everyone including you who comes to this forum is seeking something along with companionship. In a place where all kinds of mental conditions are flying around, it's very easy to write or "say" something the wrong way even if it wasn't intentional. Most people will forgive that and know in advance that nothing was meant to be callous or harmful.

I know your words were meant to care, so keep calm and carry on.