I don't remember any issues with talking. My husband and I started dating before skype was super popular so we talked on the phone mostly. When we did start to use video chat, we never really talked. We'd both be working on something and occasionally look up and wave at each other. Where I did have issues was intimacy, especially that first kiss. I'd get super nervous and feel like I forgot how to act and what to do, and I swear this happened almost every single time for the entire four years we were long distance. It just takes a little while to get used to being around someone again. I think one of the benefits of a close proximity relationship is that you can just sit and be quiet with someone, you don't need to talk constantly. Also, if you're spending an entire day with someone, you don't need to tell them about it. Not to mention, you'll talk sporadically through out the day instead of lump it all together into an hour on skype.

I'm wondering if the anxiety over talking had something to do with the break-up of the relationship. Not saying that it caused it, but that the reasons for breaking up were causing the anxiety about talking. I also find it interesting that you went on a break right before he came to visit -- I can easily see how that alone would cause some tension.. You were already a bit out of sync, and not only were you re-learning how to date him, you were learning how to date him while he was there which was a new experience for you.

I'm sorry I can't give you any concrete advice on how to prevent it in the future, but at the same time I don't think you should panic over it, either. Just because it happened with this guy doesn't mean it'll happen in every relationship you have from here on out.