Thank you for sharing your situation, Mountainbigfishman. Anytime a child is sick, it creates a tremendous amount of stress on the parents so it is only natural that you are both going through a process of trying to cope with things.

The thing with traumatic events is everyone reacts to them in their own way. You have managed to face this situation with a better focus than your wife for now. She is probably afraid and doesn't know how to deal with that fear in the same way you have. This creates more stress on you because you probably feel you have had to be strong for both of you and that creates an extra burden on you.

As others have mentioned, while diabetes can create serious health problems, it is very often quite manageable. That doesn't mean it's not scary, it just means that there is no reason your little one can't enjoy a healthy and happy life as long as you watch over them.

As for your marriage, you might start by asking your wife what she needs. Let her know how much you love her and how much your family means to you and you want to be there for her to make her feel secure again. I would encourage both of you to see a therapist, either individually or as a couple, to learn strategies to help you out. When two people find it difficult to communicate, to express themselves and listen carefully to each other in a meaningful way, then a counselor can become a third party to help facilitate that. While I understand that you are frustrated and because of that it may take a great effort on your part to summon the patience to care for your wife's fragility, it is certainly worth it. Not only for the both of you, but for your child who will be relying on you both. Hang in there, you can make it with a little help and some patience and understanding.