I guess I should have elaborated on that story. Week two post-discovery of the affair, I stayed in a hotel. One night, she started calling and emailing me like crazy around 1-2am. She was making ridiculous claims, and eventually resorted to calling the hotel directly when I silenced her contact. She said "your dogs got out" (not possible, two doorways, then an electric fenced yard AND I had put them away myself -- plus the doors are self closing hinges swinging IN to the dogs.) She then said "come to think of it, I don't remember you having dogs". I called the Police to do a welfare check on the dogs. They got there, talked to her, confirmed the behavior, asked me to come down (circa 3am) to give a statement. They asked some questions and concluded she was being arrested for domestic violence for harassment during unreasonable hours. I spent the next 60 minutes persuading them not to arrest her (in this state, the state takes over, the victim simply can't NOT press charges). I had to convince them that they had asked me questions that I didn't know the legal implications or meanings of, and that I needed those fully explained to me before I could answer them accurately. They called in the sergeant and explained the terms (which I already knew) and asked me again for my statement. I answered in such a way that she wasn't arrested. I didn't want the mom of my kids going to jail, having that hanging over her head. Heck, I just hurt her with the affair so I felt like I was doing GOOD... She will never see any of it (nor will she).

That is the DV story... one of 7 police visits...