LadyWyndh, I think darkeyes' advice is excellent...a good counsellor could really help you find ways to trust again.

But I did want to add that you are not alone in that feeling...if you stay awhile here at the forum, you will see that many many people who have been hurt or abused by those who were supposed to love them the most find it very difficult to open their hearts and expose them again. I think one thing that is very important to helping you "unfreeze" your heart is to take it very slowly. Try to find someone you can "like" so you can establish something between feeling love and feeling nothing. When you feel like you can open up to someone, share little bits at a time, so you don't take a big emotional risk until you have some behavior back from them that you can trust them. Also, this may sound sexist, but I think it helps to start by trying to form a good, trusting, female - female friendship, before you worry about opening up to males. The reason I say this is not because women are more trustworthy, but it is just so easy for romance or sex to intrude on opposite sex friendships.

Good luck, and let us know how you are doing.

*hugs*
mj