how long you have been with him? was he always like this, and is it as the years go on, its become more and more impossible for you to put up with it, where you feel you cant even take a shower without his 'okay you can.' Have you tried discussing his overly possessiveness with you? I am recently leaving a man that was just like this. I have come to realize, it was becoming harder and harder for me to put up with it where I just couldnt take it anymore. We had an on again off again relationship and alot of our breakups was based on, when I made other plans with friends. He would flip out on me, alot like what you said in your post. and sometimes he would scream at me if i didnt answer the phone, and I find the idea crazy. sometimes you just cant get to the phone..but he would just scream at me...Its like this, if you try your best to discuss that you can not live your life walking on egg shells and suiting his every need like you have no mind of your own, you have done all you can. I am not trying to tell you what to do, all I am saying if you tell him its bothersome to you and not healthy that you feel you cant even walk in a mall without him knowing your every move, and he wont change, you either have to be willing to accept this behavior forever, or get out. I know for a little while he would try to become easier, but it would NEVER LAST..