I see lots of posts on here by people complaining that they have no friends. I am not blessed with an overabundance of them either. But as I read some of these posts I am struck with how people seem to go on and on about what they want from others, but never talk about what THEY can bring to the friendship. As with all relationships, friendships go two ways. There's a saying, howeve trite, that says, "to have a friend, you need to be a friend". I have been trying to think about what I can do to BE a better friend to others, and then how can I put that into action. I think one of the things that I can do is to be a better listener. I am not the only one who has issues. Instead of just "dumping" all the time, perhaps I need to be more willing to be the "dumspter." Just some thoughts.