Hi LadyD,

I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time. Wow, post pardom depression. That takes me back alot of years ago. I remember how depressed I was. It was horrible. So, even though it's been many years ago, i do understand.
It sounds like you have your hands full with the four year old. Even though it hurts to make her mind, dont stop. Some day she will "get it" and it will get better. But, if you give up, she will be running your house.
I know a little about four year olds as I have two four year old grandchildren. They are very precious but also would take over my house if I let them.
I do hope things will get better for you really soon.
Take care of yourself first, then you can take care of the rest.
Linda