Hi and Welcome to Psych Central. From what you describe, it does not sound like an abusive relationship to me. sounds like you argue a lot, but that takes two and you describe yourself as a willing participant. you describe him as using I feel statements and correcting himself and explaining what he really means when he has said something inappropriate. verbal abusers don't do this. it sounds like he is really willing to work on this relationship from what you have described. the two of you just have to develop communication skills. take care.