My personal advice is to either have him move out, or you move out. Only once you are free from the constant "bickering" and "slight" drinking problem (whatever that is) will you be able to work on your own issues in safety. There are steps to take before telling or making such a move though (and I doubt you should tell the T, she seems to have taken sides)... contact a woman in distress=type group for advice on how to safely get out with your own credit and none of his debt etc. If you hint you are leaving before you are ready to run for your life, you may not get out alive if he is truly that angry a person. Be safe.