As my late grandmother used to say, again and again:

"everything for the better"

You are just not seeing it now, but it IS for the better - her reaction was a Litmus test that she did not pass. Sure she was entitled to leaving her wedding dress and the travel souvenirs behind to make a dramatic, poignant statement to you - she sure was entitled to that and I am not blaming her FOR THAT. But she wasn't entitled to involve the kids the way she did, and it simply did not reflect well on her. So in the long run, you will be better off not married to her. Plus, given that your emotional needs are higher than those of an average person, and, that she was uniquely ill-equipped to meet them (=her ability to meet emotional needs is much lower than that of an average person), the chances that your next woman will have more warmth for you are statistically high. In other words, you were uniquely ill-suited for one another.