Thread: Anxiety at work
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Old Aug 28, 2013, 08:25 PM
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I'm sorry this is happening justwantobenormal. This person is getting up on your anxiety. Don't think that medication alone will fix all. You also need psychological therapy, psych defense tactics to train your brain to be strong. I watched a video on you tube that says a medicine will only help you to deal with the problem you are facing, but ultimately you say to your self, "this is me, this is my self esteem, I have to stand up for my self, for my rights" and so on, you train your mind to this and it will help you a lot. This person has no idea the psychological wreckage she's leaving on you, this bully wish I had her in front of my face to tell her off.

I recommend for you to read this book from author Emund J Bourne, Ph D called "Beyond Anxiety & Phobia" dealing with cognitive-behavioral therapy. Page72 reads "you stand up for your basic rights. You ask for what you want and you say "no" to what you don't want. Self-trust means you trust your body, feelings, and behavior."

So even if you don't get to the unemployment stage or quiting stage, you tell her w/o snapping and with a firm tone "you can't treat me like this, I have rights as an employee". I feel harasses by the way you approach me and single me out in every moment you have an opportunity to do so" and either call that brainless cow into her own office or tell her that with a very firm defiant tone. Do not snap, do not create a show (that is what these animals want you to do so they can have a better excuse to write you up or fire you).

Pick up on your self-esteem, don't be afraid in any way to face these type of people in your life. And I'm very sure all symptoms you have are a normal reaction to negative stimulus caused by these types of situations. I'm sure you can recover from this like I have in the past and overcome your demons like I have. Please keep us all posted ok. God bless you.

Ps: bullies I hate bullies, I detest them.
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