Quote:
Originally Posted by (JD)
My personal advice is to either have him move out, or you move out. Only once you are free from the constant "bickering" and "slight" drinking problem (whatever that is) will you be able to work on your own issues in safety. There are steps to take before telling or making such a move though (and I doubt you should tell the T, she seems to have taken sides)... contact a woman in distress=type group for advice on how to safely get out with your own credit and none of his debt etc. If you hint you are leaving before you are ready to run for your life, you may not get out alive if he is truly that angry a person. Be safe.  |
JD I am open to options but I am not sure moving out is the solution and maybe you slightly misunderstood my post. I don't have his debt and I'm not scared of leaving should I make that choice. I control all of our finances and make slightly more money than him and truly could support myself fully so it has nothing to do with that. You mention "run for your life". I could walk out the door with all of my stuff and he would probably sit there and watch me walk out. Granted he would be upset, but there have been times I did leave to take a time out from the fighting, stayed at my Mom's and he wasn't really angry, more hurt I think. There is no part of me that thinks I "wouldn't get out alive". I truly don't think he would ever physically abuse me nor has he ever. He just is easily irritated, which irritates me. I know he's willing to work on it, but I'm a pretty strong and independent person so I feel I have to demand respect and never ever let him get away with it. That is what I'm having a hard time with is distinguishing everyday annoyances that people have and whether that falls under the category of verbal abuse.
Thanks