My problem is that I tend to get hung up on one person and then go all out with giving them my attention, looking out for their needs etc. I do think I'm a good friend but unfortunately I can overload people and put them off. I know I should keep things lighter but I can't seem to help it. Just when I think I've got the balance right, something will come along and throw me into emotional free fall.

I've noticed that people who have lots of friends often don't seem to try. It just happens naturally. I think probably as a result of discovering things they have in common. Where I work for instance lots of people talk about sports (a subject I have zero interest in) and naturally then move on to being social and joking around. I'm more introverted and prefer talking about deeper emotional stuff which people aren't usually keen on launching right into so I probably come across as a bit odd and intense.

I think maybe the problem is that I don't meet enough people I want to be friends with. Which could also be why I go overboard when I do meet someone I like.