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Originally Posted by man123
Thanks for your reply. He said that had he too done stuff with other girl it would have been ok, maybe. But since that's not the case he is hurt that I lied and he wants to come over this and move on happily with our relationship.
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he is having a lapse in his logic. Do not tell him that though - he is in a vulnerable position and does not need further trouble!
He is saying, essentially:
1) "I have the need for absolute symmetry. Everything has to be symmetrical. I have not done stuff with my fling partner, so you should not have done stuff with your ex".
This position is, basically, funny and immature, since people cannot have everything in their histories perfectly aligned in symmetry - it does not happen in reality, outside of perhaps some arranged marriages in India, and even that is slowly coming to a halt. But
it makes sense.
2) "I am hurt since you lied". This makes sense in and of itself, taken in isolation.
So far so good.
But when he said that he is hurt because you lied
in light of his not having done stuff with the fling girl - that defies logic and common sense.
If it is at all possible to disassemble his assertions into two separate statements (above) and deal with each of them separately, since they are not in any way related to one another, that sure would help.