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Originally Posted by lido78
He initially just said that he had not sent me a text, so I said "That's so weird, I have it right here." He then though I was accusing him of something when I said, "Did you mean to send the text to someone else?" To me, this seems logical but I can also see how it can be taken as an accusation of sorts. But, the bottom line is that I had a text on my phone and he was saying he had not sent me one. So, unless little green men had gotten hold of his phone, it looked as if he was not being truthful for some reason.
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it can be taken as an accusation of sorts in the right context. without knowing more about the details of your relationship, it is not possible to really give an opinion from an outsider's perspective. I can tell you that "That's so weird, I have it right here." was totally appropriate to say and could not have been taken as an accusation of sorts, but "Did you mean to send the text to someone else?" could have been taken as an accusation - "could have" does not mean "should have"!!! - depending on the context, again, and, depending on the tone of your voice when you said it. In a written form, this utterance does not convey your tone of voice, so it is not possible to give an objective opinion.
this is just an observation about this little tidbit - in general, your feeling of being in a precarious position when talking to him and your apprehension of triggering him by the slightest little thing mean that more work needs to happen in this relationship to make it more equitable (=so that he can be with you more or less the way you can be with him).