I could be completely off here but...

I get the impression from your OP that you may have been more accusatory than you are letting on and have cleaned the story up a bit to make yourself look more innocent. I'm not suggesting you necessarily even did it consciously. The story people end up with in their heads about what happened almost always makes them come out in a better light than what actually happened. Are you sure you're not believing your own rationalizations? Were you perhaps a bit more accusatory than you think you were recalling the story? Reading between the lines in this story, it seems likely to me.