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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Are you currently, in counseling, to get to the root of why, after you become intimate with a person, it's like a switch goes off and you find them, too clingy, needy, and instead of confronting them, it comes across from your writing, you begin to avoid?
Not sure, if that's about love, or intimacy.
You mention, that you want a companion, aren't sure if anyone is going to be good enough?
Relationships are about give and take. Maybe, avoid the sleeping with a person, until you are certain?
Not sure, just trying to offer my own perspective.
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I'm not currently in counseling but hope to start over with my search for a good therapist in my town. I think that will help. I think the main reason I tend to avoid and run away, not look back, rather than confront them and explain how I feel is because a) I don't know how to explain other than to say I just don't have feelings for them any more but I don't know why, and b) because I am terrified of hurting their feelings and having to witness it in person.
It's a cowardly thing to do but it's just something I've always done, since I started to dating..