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Originally Posted by avlady
I suffer with the what if. I constantly bothers me, i can't seem to get a grip on positive thoughts, the negative seems to just take over. how do i become more positive and is it possible, with all the negative things that have happened already?
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It's possible. Here is my story. Though I have not eliminated all the negative in my life, I am so much better than I was. But it has taken a lot of work and more than anything it has taken my being proactive in my care. The T I had before the one I am working with now told me after several months of no progress (and my being very distessed over it) "you just came in here and fell down like a puddle at my feet. You expect me to do all the work to make you better, and that's not what therapy is. You have to do your part. Everytime I suggest something you have a reason why you can't, or it won't work. You have to at least try some of the things that I suggest. If you aren't willing to do that, then I can't help you". Well, needless to say, I was totally ticked off, but I forced myself to sit there and listen to what she had to say. And I am just stubborn enough that I was going to prove her wrong. It has made all the difference. Ask your T this question the you asked here so that they can help you with it. That's what you are paying them for. Also be willing to do what they suggest that you do.