While I have my own issues as well, I can say that you should watch out from misogynistic thoughts. I know that they creep up easily but trust me when I say you don't want to go on that dark path.

As for being rejections for being too nice; That's a woman's way of saying that you should be kind but have your own morals and values. Don't be afraid to disagree or call out a potential mate on her behavior or view-points and have your own path in life.
You wouldn't drop your own morals and values for a friend now would you?