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Old Aug 29, 2013, 08:20 PM
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Originally Posted by ocdwifeofsociopath View Post
I agree apart from open urinals haha. I don't know why, but I think it's crude to see a man just whip it out and pee. I like the idea of still getting privacy so there aren't any odd stares...doors on stalls are not a bad thing.
I agree. I think co-ed public restrooms with doors on stall would be ideal.

The large companies I have worked for all seem to be using the same design: there are sexed restrooms on each floor in each building on campus, accessible with an employee badge, and one private/individual bathroom in the lobby. The lobby is accessible without a badge, so guests, interviewees, etc. can be there, and the bathroom is partially for them and partially for employees who are transitioning.

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I used to work with a person who transitioned from male to female. I knew her when she was already wearing skirts, make-up, etc. I have recently befriended a person who is transitioning from man to woman on OKC - the person has a really interesting profile and intellectual and cultural interests, and we would eventually get together and chat, in a non-romantic, non-sexual way. This person on OKC, just as the person I used to work with, share the same appearance "trends" - they overdo femininity. Say, most women who were born women and who work in tech wear jeans, t-shirts, and little to no makeup. They often have short haircuts and the hair is often its natural color.

These two persons who were / are transitioning, by contrast, wear skirts, dye the hair platinum blonde, wear the hair long, wear very bright make-up, etc. It looks really odd and they stand out that way - they do not blend into the crowd.

So, Teen Idle, I just wonder - when I meet this person off OKC (she just canceled her profile as a male and opened a profile as a woman three weeks ago), should I tell her that she is overdoing femininity, or would it offend her? I want to be helpful without offending her sensibilities.