I am not familiar with match.com but I am familiar with OKC and I have read a few profiles to get an impression of what is out there.

I think you needed to be suspicious of this kind of an "ad". Go for people who write interesting things about themselves, report doing something worthwhile with their lives, and do not advertise their neediness. Don't go for men who advertise neediness - go for men whose profiles paint them as accomplished individuals who are NOT lonely, who are NOT "needing someone" (because you do not want to be a random "someone" who plugs a hole called "his being lonely" - you want to be you!!!), but who are already content, already successful, etc. - in other words, men who are already OK and who want MORE from life.

Then you'd not need to suffer so much.