Hi Essiefisher
Welcome to Psych Central. You are in quite the predicament, but there must be a reason the two of you have never got together all these years. the big question is, why did he wait till after you were married to reveal how he feels about you? there is an excitement to be had in forbidden love that blinds one to all the negative consequences. why have the two of you never got together if you were meant to be? is he asking you to leave now to be with him? if so, make a pro/con list and choose carefully. if he is still only out for a fling, you need to consider the commitment you made to your husband and whether that is worth giving up should he find out. either way, you have to live with the consequences. choose where your happiness is going to lie. take care.