Why three years (=why that long)? How old are you and what sort of sex life are you having?

My general advice to everybody who complains of insensitive OB-GYNS is to stop using them altogether, forever, unless you become pregnant and are facing a HIGH RISK pregnancy. Or, if you are undergoing fertility treatments. These are the only two reasons to actually NEED an OB-GYN. For regular well women care and for prenatal and postnatal care + delivery in low-risk pregnancies, you do not NEED an OB-GYN - a midwife (for pregnancy and well-woman exams) or a nurse-practitioner (for well woman exams) would do just fine and actually, usually, provide a much better care for you. They'd listen to your concerns, they would not be rushed to get you out the door, etc. - the midwives especially are trained to deliver compassionate care to women. That, in general and based on statistics. In your specific case, the fact that you are happy not to see this doctor for another threes years means, quite clearly, that you should fire her and find a better provider.