I'll be honest here, I did not read everything on this post (read the original and skimmed th replies) as a lesbian woman I think I hear you loud and clear I personally am very feminine but on the occasion that I throw on a baseball cap and tshirt to run to the store I have gotten the occasional "sir" , my wife on the other hand is very masculine in her appearance and gets "sirred" alll the time. My point is if people make assumpitons in real life, I'm not sure that you can expect them not to online where all they have to go on is your avatar and username. Personally I couldn't care less what gender anyone is on here as long as we all keep working together. You have to have faith and love and respect for yourself enough to know that "coming out" means having to do it over and over again. It is not common knowledge to ask what gender someone is... I for one would be offended if someone asked me if I was a man or a woman. Be proud of who you are whomever it may be!