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Originally Posted by Teen Idle
I am a queer person. I do not fit into either of the two binary genders. I am a mix of both or neither. (protip; do not educate me on the impossibilities of gender and how it is connected to sex you'd be arguing with a senior biology student who excels in genetics). I never correct people when they use pronouns for me that are not my pronouns. For the first few months I was here, I used a male musician as my avatar (was not pretending to be him I had stated many times it was a musician in a band I adore) and most people ASSUMED I was male.
Last night I changed my avatar/signature to a female musician I happen to be enjoying at the moment. And over night I have become an ASSUMED female. Just because of an icon and a signature that features a cis-gendered female.
I am tired of people assuming gender. I am tired of people assuming it is okay to throw he and she and even they around without ASKING what preferred pronouns are. Mine are them/their/they're's. It's simple to ask. Using me as an example; "Teen Idle, what are your pronouns?". That way you can avoid triggering someone. It's not hard, it's just not a habit people seem to get into because they do not know about it.
That is all.
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What you need to understand is that people often get idea about what gender someone is by their avatar. If I or someone else had pictures of pink butterflies or fairies, or unicorns with daisy chains, people would possibly assume I was female. Especially if I was also called princesslove or some name like that.
Likewise, If I was called Alphadog with a picture of Robert De Niro as my avatar people would assume I was male. That's part of what humans do, we assume things, and often in both cases it would be correct.
Being tired of people assuming gender is a bit of nonsense really. Because you're not going to stop people assuming that.