My husband is considerably older than I am and that wasn't really a problem until fairly recently. I am not sure what to do or even how to frame it to handle it. We were away in different parts of the summer, each time more in each other's spaces (and faces) than usual. There were fights that I was totally shocked by. I wondered (and so did my therapist) if he was having a sudden organic decline. It turns out that I suspect that he simply isn't hearing me, then for weird psychological reasons agrees to what I say and then when I come back from whatever it is we've agreed upon, he is furious and almost abusive, doesn't remember what I said, denies the conversation, and if I remind him, he gets more defensive and aggressive about the whole thing so I just want to retreat. We've been together a long time, but this is all new behavior really. I'm not sure what to do. My therapist hasn't been a great resource for this. He has had older parents but not been around them in this capacity. He is a doctor as well so tends to think the worst about an organic decline when I actually suspect it is mainly hearing loss and an embarrassment about that so no hearing aids and agreement even though he actually hasn't heard what he is agreeing to, hence the rage afterwards. I'm getting really taxed by this. I'm basically alone, with just him and my therapist. I don't have anyone else to turn to, not family or friends anymore so I am posting with the hope that someone can see what I'm going through and say something helpful.