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Old Aug 30, 2013, 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Essiefisher View Post
thank you all for our words of advice!! I have no idea what my issue is with this man!! i know hes been unfair to me, i guess I just have no idea why he would do this with me?? doesn't make any sense. how do i move on from him, and not have such strong feelings?? I do love my husband..ive only ever loved these two men in my life.
you won't be able to move on until you separate those issues completely:

1) that you have strong feelings for him
2) that you are trying to understand his motivation

the issues are not related to one another at all, with only one caveat - that you cannot comprehend his motivation makes him enigmatic - in your mind - that can fuel your strong feelings for him.