Back to OP - I think you should try to find partners who do not look at this rigidly as in "you must have had a sexual debut by age X, a serious long term relationship by age Y, etc. etc." Try to stay with people who are more flexible and who want to spend time with YOU as a person rather than you as a sum total of your achievements ("losing one's virginity" is a funny expression because it contains the word "losing" and yet is viewed totally as an "achievement"="gain")

Look: in different Canadian provinces the legal age of drinking varies a bit (I think it varies between 18 and 19 - I believe the United States is the only country with such an insanely high legal age of drinking).

I am comparing the age you are talking about - the age of losing virginity - with the age of legal drinking because both the initiation into sex (a sexual debut is a much better term than "losing virginity") and the initiation into alcohol are considered milestones of socialization in this country. I do not think it is right to think this way of alcohol consumption - I much prefer the way cultures that do not have much alcoholism handle this issue, by letting young children consume a bit of alcohol on occasion within their family or extended family, and I grew up this way and have never been drunk in my life, probably - in part - because I never thought of alcohol as something that is cool, forbidden fruit, adult, or anything like this. So I disagree with the approach but state it as a factual observation - the alcohol and sex initiation are both socialization milestones in North America.

So - if it is 18 in one province and 19 in another province, that means that there is no "correct" age - there is some arbitrary line drawn somewhere. It is OK to draw some arbitrary line if you are a legislature that HAS to draw that line somewhere - the law that would:

- enable me, personally, to buy alcohol legally starting at age 14 on the basis of that I am not a candidate for alcoholism and would not abuse alcohol, but

- would disable another person from buying alcohol legally until she is 35 because she has a genetic propensity towards substance abuse and addiction and could not handle alcohol until she'd be much more mature

... would be too costly to implement - we cannot study each individual person in depth in order to determine the right, rational legal age of drinking per person.

So we draw some kind of a line because we have to.

But for an individual person to draw the line so arbitrarily is very weird, and, I know from experience, really limiting - I used to have a really arbitrary and rigid age policy - boys/young men my age only, not even a year older or younger - and that was really stupid and unwise of me. I no longer have it.

So try to stay with people who are genuinely interested in you - they'd be flexible enough not to ask for your sexual resume with dates of each milestone.

That said, be reasonable and do not wait until you are 96!