My depressed partner is hanging out in a motel, not talking to me, his cell phone turned off.....not talking to the world. We had just come back from 10 weeks holiday in America with each other 24/7 and having an amazing loving time. He has been 'hiding out' a week now with very little contact with me. I hadn't heard from him since last Saturday when I almost had to threaten to make a fuss and get the police in...( it was out of character for him to go so long without contact, and when I last saw him last Saturday he was unbelievably depressed, talking about being pathetic, crazy and worthless, so I was naturally very concerned). Anyway after my email telling him I was very concerned and was thinking of registering him as a missing person with the police, he emailed me straight back, then another email on the same day, saying he didn't want to feel how he was, that he had no money left, no prospects, and his future was looking bleak, that he couldn't see me at the moment as he had to pretend that everything was ok around me...so if I could just leave him be for the moment. Anyway I sent him a very supportive email in reply. That was Thursday and its now Saturday and I've heard nothing from him since them, besides me sending him loving, supportive and 'I miss you' emails on a daily basis.
My question is, how long am I supposed to give him? This is breaking my heart, not knowing what's going on with him. I miss him so much, it's almost like a physical pain. I'm trying hard to stay positive, but I'm finding anger at him and the way he's treating me creeping into my thoughts and I don't like that...
We have been together 22 months, our relationship was a bit shaky initially but we have been steady and happy for the last 16 months or so. I'm going crazy....