Thank you for that. He is a very proud man. He has been in therapy and on medication before but feels they won't help. He says he is depressed because he has run out of money, that he is a 57 year old man and is unlikely to get another job. He says medication is unlikely to be able to get the farm back that he lost, find him an executive position or get all the money back he lost and I tend to agree.
I've been telling him I love him no matter what he does, it's what in his heart that matters, not how much money he's got in the bank or what he does for a living. I told him I'd be happy if he just drove a cab or mowed lawned, but he has to come to that realisation himself. And that is where his problem lies, accepting his changed status in life. He is angry at himself for some poor decisions and judgements he has made that have left him in this situation.
He is of old school and feels he should have something to offer me, should be able to support me etc....