I get why you get it, but that would annoy me. Because as a friend, she should have at least through an "...but if it helps you to talk about it, i'm always here to listen..." or something. At the same time though, its understandable that people who have not been in the situation can't understand it. Thats where some sort of negotiation has to take place. However, I think you have a legitimate right to be upset by her actions (or lack there of). Sometimes you don't want advice, just a little support to know you're not alone and it's okay.