Sorry to hear you're struggling so badly right now.

I know this may not be what you want to hear, and may not be a popular response, but right now I think the hospital would be the safest place for you to be. Not only would it give you immediate access to care, but it would also give you and your husband a little reprieve from the daily chaos, it would save your job (as long as you've been at your job for a year and they have at least 50 employees, a hospital stay would be covered under FMLA and they couldn't touch you), and it might get your family to realize that this is serious and you're not just trying to get attention.

You're right. You don't have time to wait until October. You will likely lose your job and things will continue to fall apart. You can stop this in its tracks NOW, but it will probably take an immediate hospital stay to do it. You and your family are worth it.