I feel your pain on this one too.

I am in a marriage with a guy who does this to me all the time. To the point where I am to blame for everything. He blows up at small things and misinterprets things all the time. I also walk on eggshells around him and so do my kids. Its a horrid way to live and he is a total monster. He needs therapy and more medication. He has been diagnosed depressed and I feel there is more to it.

He also refuses to talk about anything unless it is to do with him. Turn's every talk into I am so selfish or I am to blame. Doesn't listen to what I have to say and now at the point where I don't say anything at all. Its better this way.

I think you need to decide if this is worth the effort or not. If it is, get some counseling and work though it. If not, break it off. There are better things out there for you.