This is an interesting thread. I'm pretty well versed in lots of things but I'm surprised at how ignorant I am about the nuances of genderqueer issues.

People can care and want fairness for others, but it can be confusing so I hope you aren't too hurt by others' well meaning responses.

Also it may help to know that sexuality isn't so cut and dried in the straight community either...I am a straight female but a psych test once stated that I am a "male-identified" female; we are all just on a spectrum