My mom was acting like your husband not too long ago. She's at the upper end of 60 and her hearing is perfect but her short term memory declined rapidly after my dad passed.

She has chalked it down to trauma btw and refuses any medical assistance... go figure.

If we (my brother, daughter or I ) pointed out that we had already had this conversation she would become aggressive and very angry at us and herself.

It's been 3 years and thankfully she hasn't gotten any worse, but its just the same. We have resorted to nodding and appearing to listen attentively even if it's the third time that day she's repeating herself.

This seems to have stopped the anger outbursts, but she still gets visibly upset with herself at times when she realizes she forgot something on her own. She is however at that point where she can sometimes joke about it. Which is progress I say

When I leave for work, I cant leave my mom with instructions to do anything that isn't within routine, she will forget and vehemently deny ever having that conversation because in her reality it never happened. If I have to though, I ask her infront of my 9 y.o and she will then remind mom to do x y or z.

Unless hubby is putting the tv louder and speaking in a raised tone these days, I seriously doubt it's his hearing, he sounds really similar to mom.

I hope you 2 are able to see a dr and have this checked out. If hubby is a proud man, and I sense that he is, advise to get his hearing checked even if you know hearing loss has been ruled out. Ultimately hearing loss is "better" than memory loss on this scale. This way he gets to a dr anyway, whom can hopefully help you guys.

Really sorry its tough