I want to see if I'm understanding you correctly - are you saying you were born with both male/female genitalia as the medical term hermaphrodite? Yes I understand how some don't identify with a specific gender. If a person has female genitalia but doesn't identify as female - what's that called? The same of a person has male genitalia - what's the correct term? Are they both gender-queer. Is a lesbian who dresses masculine gender-queer.

I wonder why those who consider themselves gender -queer struggle with disclosing what biological genitalia they have? I'm wondering if they meet a potential partner and that partner might assume they're one sex....when do they disclose their biological identity? I do understand how a person may feel one gender that doesn't coincide with their physical body. I think I made an error about Sweden - think its Germany who will have the new rule for a third alternative on birth certificates and the option to fore-go surgery ...to allow the baby to make their own decision whether to leave as is or alter one or the other. This is the better alternative I think. Thanks for the reply.