I stopped talking to my dad when I was 19 and even though we started talking again after a few months, it helped me a lot. Just the distance alone. I started to think of him as a person instead of a parent. I had this idea of what a father had to be like and I just kept trying to make him fit that idea. Then I realized that a person like my dad could never be that. I also realized that there were only so many things I could expect from him. And that, in my case, the few things he is able to give are better than not having him in my life. The stupid, unnecessary things he did in the past will always hurt I guess, as will the fact that he'll never acknowledge them or apologize but I'm fine with what we have now. I've never been able to say that about either of my parents or my grandma.

So, yeah. I'm probably not the right person to give advice --especially not right now-- but I think that if you've come to the point of contemplating cutting all ties with your parents, you should do it. And I understand that you're afraid that you'll feel guilty because my mom raised me like that, too. Sheis so manipulative that I'm afraid I won't be able to tell if she's ever honest. I think that it's already happened and at first the thought terrified me but, really, whose fault is it? Even if you feel guilty, see your guilt for what it is: something that they created to control you. You don't have to let them.