spondaneous reply: I agree, but in reality also people can turn on us thus from certain vulnerabilities I react with.....b & w thinking again..."if they can show that side, deal that hand", I totally reject you. I think it is a boundary somehow for borderlines, defense mechanisms for not getting hurt....we (I) can sometimes be overly harsh in our judgments of what people are capable of doing but hey fighting back and resisting is more empowering than passivity. One can forgive and still fight. I reject all people who have intentionally hurt me...I don't judge them, no need to...what they've done
to be will be done to them, and that goes for my treatment of others which is what I'd rather focus on...how can I make this person's journey lighter.....without needing validation from anyone...just I'm here for you.