Well, unfortunately things haven't gone well with this guy...he's been a constant trigger to my beliefs of being worthless and unimportant. Unfortunately no matter how I tried to be calm, things never got fixed and 3 weeks went by being in limbo and not knowing how he felt and not being able to get him to open up or discuss any issues with him.

I got upset with him one day for just leaving me hanging during a text conversation and I told him I didn't like it and he could make more effort or not bother contacting me again. He assumed I was saying goodbye and he said goodbye and sorry. I tried to explain that this was not what I meant but he didn't respond. I left it a couple of days and then sent him a message saying I didn't know what to do and asked him if I should just leave him alone. He replied saying he was busy and would talk to me later, but again didn't get back to me. So the next day I'd had enough and I said, "Sorry to bother you - it's obvious that you don't want to talk to me or are too busy, but being left in limbo is very painful for me and I tried to explain that to you. I'm done trying to communicate like this through text. All I really wanted was to find out where we stood and if we both wanted to work things out, but I guess your lack of contact means you don't. I'm sorry I couldn't be more relaxed - you have no idea what the past 3 weeks have been like for me. I hope you find what you're looking for x".

I then sent him another message a while later finally letting him know I have BPD as it may come in useful. I thought he may as well know in case he wants to understand what happened better...not that he has to, it just gives him the option.

Anyway, I never heard back...again. This was on Friday. I've now been trying very hard not to contact him and of course I can't stop obsessing. It's probably the fact he has said NOTHING to me since what I said. He's just ok with things ending like that?! I don't get it. I am thinking of approaching the subject of being friends, but only once feelings have subsided. But I don't want bad feelings right now and I'm wondering how it would come across if I sent him a message asking how he was and just trying to make "peace". Something like, "Hey are you ok? I hope there are no hard feelings and that once all this has blown over we can be friends...if you want that is. It's be good to know how you feel".

Any suggestions??