I don't know about too sensitive but I think I would want to feel better so I was not crying all the time?

If the manager in the pub was hassling you, I would not have wanted to be there either, would have gotten angry though and walked out with my husband, asked to be taken to another pub? It's not worth the "free" coupon that they aren't honoring to be upset about the whole evening?

If you concentrate on the situation instead of yourself and what you want/do not want, that might help a little? You had a coupon and wanted to go out for a drink; your husband said he'd come and that was an unpleasant surprise because you were not getting along and you wanted to go out on your own. Not resolving that first issue with yourself might not have been a good idea?

It sounds to me like your evening ended up being one thing on top of another that went "wrong" because each one was not addressed when it came up. I don't think you can have a bunch of things going wrong and end up with a good overall experience?

Do you have any girl friends? I would do something like make a girls' night out to help relieve some stress of being with your husband. Maybe you could join a networking group of people looking for jobs or a women's group?