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I have been seeing a man periodically. We are both in our thirties so we are not kids. At first the relationship was good but then he started trying to be controlling and I am not the kind of person to let a man control me. If he doesn’t get his way he will ignore me or if I do anything he doesn’t like he will ignore me. Then just when I have forgot about him and mentally moved on from him he will contact me to say he wants me. We will continue to text each other getting on well and then if he suggests meeting up and I cant do that day due to work commitments he will then go in another mood and ignore me again....and then the same thing happens. I wanted to make things work with us and I have tried to be nice but everytime I do he will just get nasty with me....and when I try to make things better with us he will take this and use it to be nasty. It seems to me like he only contacts me so that he can try to make me feel bad. Yet whenever we are together he will tell me that he is in love with me. We have a lot of chemistry with each other and the sex is very good but it just seems although we can never get along unless it is all on his terms. He texts me again today weeks later and I was actually the one who was mean to him as I knew which way things would go if I was nice to him. He told me to forget it and once again disappears. He seems to get a kick out of being horrible to me but I don’t know why....and Im not sure why he does not just leave me alone instead of doing this it has been going on for months. I know not to waste my time on him now but I just cant understand why he does this and would like to know why. I think it may be a form of sadism and he enjoys trying to gain control and being nasty. I would like to know peoples thoughts on this. Thanks
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