I don't quite get why you are battling about where you go, what you do? If it is a hearing problem or something, I'd write it out so he cannot mis-remember or not have heard, etc. My husband (doing less remembering now than usually too, he's 70) and I keep the same calendar of activities and most things I want to do that are a strain or surprise to the finances I discuss for a long time and talk about, etc. for a long time so there isn't a sudden, "I had fun with my girlfriends in Paris today, thanks for letting me take the trip!" conversation

My husband can get defensive about having been told or what the details of something are but I know I'm a better rememberer than he is and that I'm usually correct, etc. so I don't feel too bad or get upset if he gets it wrong. Eventually something usually comes along to show him and confirm what I say so I just let things be.