Hi - that is a positive thing to do.....forgiveness releases us.....i try to instantly forgive and not review the past.......it's over......a betrayal for me is forgivable, but just ends the connection. here's a book title which helped me alot....."Reinventing Your Life", by Dr. Jeffrey Young. "Masters of defense and past events".......i bet many borderlines can agree with that.....hang in there....change always happens......as surely as night follows day......Peace,
and I appreciate your reply, Maranara. "help..............................."