Hello everyone. I am looking for a little guidance to help me with my girlfriend who has PTSD.

Here's the back story:

I met the love of my life two and a half years ago. When I first met her, I wasn't aware of the trauma she encountered when she was around three years old. But after we became more serious, like four months into the relationship, she informed me of what occurred. She's in her late 30s now and I'm 41, and she's been dealing with this trauma her whole life and has not been able to get control of it.

Basically, her family is very ho-hum about it. They love her but don't want to give her the support she needs to heal. And that's where I came in. Their idea is to "just get over it".

I have always stood by her even in her very dark difficult moments. And because I'm the first person in her life who has truly loved her and given her unconstitutional support, there has been so much coming out these last two years. I'm the reason a lot of the trauma, repressed memories, and flashbacks are occurring. She told me its because she finally feels safe enough with someone to let them out.

But her healing has stalled this year. Her therapist was doing hypnotherapy and was doing it wrong, we later found out. Basically, the therapist made things worse. My girlfriend stopped seeing her therapist four months ago. I feel she needs a professional to help her guide her through the healing process, but she won't go see another therapist. She is not on any medications either. Both her and I agree medication only covers up the problem and not deal with it. She was on every medication known to man over her lifetime and none of it worked. She's also seen therapists since her late teens, off and on. And to compound the issue, she has serious adrenal depletion and has been placed on a cortoroid steroid to try to get her adrenals to function properly. Because of this medical issue, which was ultimately caused by the trauma, there are a host of other health problems she is facing: food sensitivities, asthma, insomniac moments, extreme fatigue, headaches and stomach aches to name a few. My girlfriend is a successful professional and is very intelligent, especially when it comes to learning more about her situation. She has probably logged hundreds of hours researching techniques, medication side effects, and treatments on the web. Often, she has more knowledge about health related issues than the doctor. She is very, VERY thorough. But even with all her knowledge and understanding of how trauma works and its effect on the human body, she just can't heal successfully from the PTSD. It always wins. She has conquered a lot in her life, but she hasn't been able to heal.

Sorry this is long winded, but I was looking for advise on how to help her when she's having a flashback and wants to push me away. I don't feel she, or any victim, should have to deal with this alone. What strategies can I use to help her fight the urge to trash her apartment, push me away, not feel triggered, or to stop a flashback?

Any help and guidance will be greatly appreciated.