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Originally Posted by walterfane
I have been told by many people that I shouldn't make a big deal of it and that it happens to most of men at a point or two but this has happened to me for the forth time now!
I have absolutely no problem getting an erection during foreplay. but once I put on the condom and start to penetrate, the erection dies and the condom comes off. Needless to mention that when this happens it doesnt come up again no matter I try because it puts me under alot of pressure. I don't wanna freak out but this has happened to me several times and I'm starting to worry.
I'm 26 years old, I'm very athletic and in a very good shape and I follow a healthy diet. Not taking any kind of drugs and I don't drink alcohol either. I'm not really used to using condoms though. and I was kind of addicted to masturbation for the past year but I've stopped for more than 2 months now. and again, I dont have a problem initiating an erection and sometimes I have wet dreams as well, so I guess its not lack of libido problem. but I'm not an expert so I wouldn't know for sure!
This issue is starting to affect my self image, your advice will be highly appreciated.
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Have you been completely honest with yourself on your feelings toward your girl? It looks like the two of you have only recently begun intimacy and it could be that you're trying to not have strong feelings for her or are trying to hide how you feel. I had the same problem with my girlfriend when we were first starting out together and while I found myself immensely attracted to her, I was afraid of falling in love with her too soon - which had already happened but I lied through my teeth to avoid my feelings - and so whenever we would begin intercourse I would lose my erection, like it was a defense mechanism keeping me from getting too intimate. When I confronted my feelings for her and accepted them, the problem went away and we've been together five years now happy as can be.
I know this isn't exactly what you're asking for but since you've already ruled out health issues and I assume you've had a healthy and successful sex life before your current I'm thinking that it's possible you might be subconciously holding yourself back.
Best wishes to you man. I hope this all works itself out soon. If you have any lingering thoguhts or questions, send me a message or a reply.