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Originally Posted by Paul Simmons
Hi everyone, I'm a newby. About a month ago my wife said she was not sexually attracted to me anymore. She says she loves me more than anything, and says she could stay in our relationship forever if it didn't include sex. We have been married 12 years together 16. Our sex life has always been pretty active, although she has always had problem with sex drive or desire. I think she might have been just doing it the last 16 years to keep me happy. So now the roles are reversed , we haven't had sex in the last month. I'm not pushing anything because I want her to be happy.
We are getting counseling and it is helping. How can I help my wife get through this? I'm having problems holding it together, because it hurts thinking I'm not the "complete" package for her.
Any advise appreciated.
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This is definitely a difficult situation because neither of you are in the wrong. I would suggest talking to her some about when her feelings changed or if anything triggered the change. Do you think it is possible that something happened to her or that she is seeing someone else (this is unlikely but sometimes it's possible)?
Since it's only been a month that things have been different it could be situational like maybe this past month has been stressful for her or the both of you. At this point definitely some conversations would be a good place to begin.