Sadly I am in the same situation. My friend of about 18 years and husband of 2 years has been having steamy online chat with a lot of women with one more serious than the rest. I confronted him and after "blaming it" on me we agreed to give it another go. During the time I was in a depressed situation for about 3 months, he invested all his time nurturing relationships with other women instead of taking care of me.

This happened between Dec12-May13 and I discovered this in Jun13 and after 3 months of second chance, I recently found more chat history, video calls which never stopped. He deleted the contacts on his skype as soon as I confronted him and started saying am invading his personal space when like you I never intruded in his space before. I am not jealous, I am not fussy, I am very outgoing and understand he needs his own space too but unlike him, I know my boundaries. I have a lot of male friends but they all know am married and loyal.

I now find myself without a friend and possibly a husband. The first time this happened, I felt betrayed and looked to end my life. I still do.

But i realise this is silly and why should I be depressed when he was not apologetic ever...always blamed on me when he never even told me anything. If things were so perfect why did not he approach me? He told me online chat, video call is not cheating and he is not doing like all other men i.e cheat physically. Should I be grateful then?

I can only tell you, think straight. Talk to him.

For me, betrayal by a friend/husband has always been my biggest fear and I felt safe with him until now.....