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Originally Posted by Evansab
My fiance is driving me crazy, I don't know what to do anymore.
I read many things about all personality disorders and could not find one that best suits his personality. If he suffer from a mental disorder I'm willing to help him.
We have been together for 2 years, we have the most terrible fights over his lies. It's not compulsive lying, he lies to please people, he goes out with people and says he was home taking care of his ill mother... I did not know he had a problem.. After another big fight he told me he has a problem, he lies a lot to please people, its like a chameleon. . .
I think I am only seeing the tip of a big iceberg!
His personality is like this:
Highly concerned about how he looks and appears,
Acts overly friendly with strangers, example: he exchange phone number with the cashier. he want's to be best friends with everyone.
Lies very easily. Lies a lot! Too much. He says he is home but he is out with his friends, he tell his friends Im a very bad person. but when he is in front of me he treats me like a god!
Extreme need to please others, all the time! Its too much....
Seeks to be accepted and loved by everyone!
Does not know how to say no to people.
Very low self esteem
Changes his opinion when in different groups, like a chameleon.
What can it be?
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for some people this isnt a mental disorder its just how they are, just their normal self
for some people its a learning disorder
for some its a physical health issue
for others its any number of things..
the line in the sand is that we cant tell you what this is. only your fiance and their treatment providers ie the fiance's medical doctor, therapist or phychiatrist) can say what this is in your fiance..
my suggestion let your fiance know what you are thinking maybe they can shed some light on this or they are willing to see a treatment provider that will be able to say whether this is normal, or a mental /physical health problems.